Why do I feel like I failed at my illness? - Ask Kati Anything! podcast episode 86

Ask Kati Anything! podcast episode 86Audience Questions:1. Why do I feel like I failed at my illness? I had anorexia for several years and then morphed into bulimia. But I don't really feel like being bulimic and more like a "failed anorexic".It really keeps me from wanting to get better and makes me so ashamed...2. Is it possible for older teenagers (16-19yo) to be groomed? Also, is grooming always explicitly sexual, or can it be only vaguely sexual or even not sexual at all? Thanks for all you do...3. What is religious trauma and how do you know if you have experienced it? I am a part of the LGBTQ community and I am going to church, but it also conflicts my sexuality. I have looked up some of the signs/symptoms, but I am unsure because I am second guessing myself...4. Here, in The Netherlands, I am 30 years out of treatment because they didn't want to help me anymore. The reason why: because I was too complex and the risk of killing myself was too high...5. I am wondering if you have any suggestions of what to tell a friend when they ask how they can help. I have a wonderful friend who has been very supportive in listening to me talk about my anxieties and other mental health concerns... 6. We hear a lot about transference, but I haven’t heard many people speak on Erotic Transference. What is a driving factor behind Erotic Transference? Have you ever had a client be open with you about theirs? & do therapists ever get Erotic Countertransference? 7. I want to stop living my life through the gaze of my trauma. After watching your videos and listening to the, 'The Place we find ourselves' podcast, I realized that I have experienced more trauma than I thought and... 8. Do you need a different type of therapy if you’re autistic than if you’re not? I recently spoke to a therapist because of self-harm and a worsening idea that everyone dislikes me even though I know I have no reason to think so... 9. I hope you're doing well? Why is it that when you ‘start’ trauma work things seem to be worse? My psychologist got me to write out a list of events, scenarios etc of what has happened in my life that I would feel like I would blow... 10. What causes someone like myself to get stuck in (or with) suicidal ideation? Is it because I haven’t worked through every aspect of the trauma? Or is it because I am constantly being triggered? Religious Trauma Video https://youtu.be/7HwSGXPKzw8Video of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON   https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL linnea@toneymedia.comSupport the show (htt --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/support

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