"Why do I feel like a child even though I am an adult?" | AKA ep 93

Ask Kati Anything ep 93Audience questions:1. Why do I feel like a child even though I am an adult? I am 32, I have a career, a partner and I am living a responsible adult life. But I feel like a child. Whenever I am subjected to ‘adult’ topics, like alcohol, sex etc. I catch myself thinking that those things are for adults only and I am still too...2.  How do I get over the feeling of not deserving to be in therapy and to get help/better? Part of me knows that I do need the help because inside I feel like a mess but outwardly I appear fine and fully functional, so every time I go, I start to feel like don't deserve to be there, and that I am just...3. I’ve noticed that lots of times after a therapy session, my brain turns to mush. I keep having those ‘uhhhh….’ moments where you know what the answer is but it’s just not coming to you. Like, it’s on the tip of your tongue but just out of reach. I keep blanking on really simple things. Should I...4. I was wondering if therapists change their body positions for a reason/purpose, like to help the patient/client feel more at ease. Recently, my therapist has started sitting and moving in ways that are "less professional" like resting her head on her hand or turning to one side and leaning against...5. Is closure a necessary part of healing a childhood trauma or is it better to not pursue it since it might backfire on the person? For example, I was bullied when I was a child and I still live close to that bully. That bully’s not tormenting me physically anymore, but from time to time, I still...6. May you please talk about how and why such small or short term things can have a deep, lasting impact on us? Why is it that little things like the way a parent spoke to/about me can hurt more than the physical aspect of things? Further I was at a highly competitive school for a year...7.  How would you tell if you're being manipulated? Every time I have arguments with my mum, I find that she mixes in truths with her own emotions, and I end up really confused. Was I truly selfish for not understanding her better and seeing things from her perspective?8. Greetings from Finland!  My question is about why my voice turns into a little child in therapy.  It’s barely audible and I want to sit in the corner during therapy and I sometimes do because it feels safe.  I can’t look at my therapist and I feel so young and little.  I don’t want to act this way...9. I have had symptoms of OCD since I was like 5 years old. How come OCD symptoms (intrusive thoughts, compulsions) get worse over time? --------------BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/support

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