Is My Worry Warranted or Is it Anxiety? | Ask Kati Anything podcast ep.81

1. Why do therapists often like to sit and silently observe you for an uncomfortable amount of time? It happens when the conversation slows down and everything goes quiet and they just sit looking at you...2. How can you tell apart when your worrying has a legitimate reason and when it's just caused by your anxiety / perfectionism? I'm always worrying I won't work hard enough for my university, that my boyfriend will leave me, that I'm not trying hard enough in therapy...3. I hope you are well! I was wondering, do you have any tips to keep your brain from freezing up or going blank when talking about trauma? I recently started having what I think are recovered memories of sexual abuse, but I don't know for sure if...4. How do you handle it when a patient gives you “doorknob disclosure”? Is it common? Do most therapists find it annoying? Is there a reason some patients do this?5. My question is... How are you? A few weeks or months ago you told us that you were taking a (much deserved) break due to stress...6. How do you know when you're "drowning in the symptoms" enough to warrant medication?  For me,  I'm just on antidepressants which (according to my doctor) isn't specifically aimed at curbing my anxiety symptoms. So I still experience anxiety/panic attacks, but they are way less frequent. I have skills to aid me, which work, but it can take me a few days to find my feet again...7. Could it be beneficial to go to a therapist who reminds you of people who have hurt you in the past? I find myself having a hard time trusting my therapist because she reminds me of everyone who has hurt me before...8. I have been wondering how people "view" their memories. I often recall memories from a 3rd person perspective, i.e. I see myself doing something rather than from my own perspective/ eyes. Is this the norm or...9. What if you’re half ready for recovery? What can you do? I want to get better, but I don’t want to put in the effort it takes to use the skills. Sometimes I forget they exist and other times I just don’t do it.10. I do not know if this is common, but do your clients ever tell you they don’t want to give up their eating disorder as a “puffer fish” mechanism? Like I find myself saying these things when I really don’t mean it, it is just easier to say I don’t want recovery over...Video of episodes's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - ARE U OK? - Suggestions THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video EMAIL linnea@toneymedia.comSupport the show ( --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:

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