Is It Worth Getting Upset Over? | AKA ep.88

Episode 88 audience questions:1. If you are taught growing up that your feelings were not valid, how do you start to feel okay feeling feelings? Throughout my childhood and as I grew up, I was consistently told I was just being too sensitive or overreacting or whatever happened was not worth getting upset over... 2. I just started therapy to work through physical and sexual abuse and was diagnosed with PTSD. My therapist has pointed out (with compassion) that I’m very ambivalent. I didn’t think this was necessarily bad until I looked it up and saw that it can be a predictor of failed...3. Can you talk about intellectualizing rather than processing trauma? My therapist says I seem to be able to talk about details of my trauma with a "clinical" viewpoint, as if I'm talking about someone else, with no difficulty at all. (I have a degree in social work).4. Hope you’re doing well. Can you talk a little bit about building intrinsic motivation? I find it easy to fight my depressive symptoms in order to do things for others, like keeping spaces clean that my roommates use, or cooking for my family, but since moving out on my own, I can’t seem to...5. What qualifies as “treatment resistant depression”? I’ve tried multiple medications, been in therapy for several years, and I’m still not feeling consistent improvement, no matter how hard I work at it. I’ve been depressed for half my life and all I want is to feel better- I just...6. Are eating disorders ever misdiagnosed? If so, what is it most often misdiagnosed as? (COMMENT: Another question off of diagnosis of EDs, if a person is diagnosed with anorexia nervosa binge/purge subtype, then gains weight through treatment but continues to binge/purge, would they now have bulimia? Can you explain the difference exactly between AN binge /purge subtype and BN? // can you be diagnosed with something like "disordered eating"? 7. How do you go from knowing something to wholeheartedly believing in it? Like I know and can probably recite what my therapist says about how its okay to have needs, that I need to care for myself first, its okay to take up space etc but emotionally, I am not there. It's still so hard and it...8. Could you talk more about the fawn-response? And especially how to get rid of it? Because I feel like I do that all the time, and occasions when I am actually authentic are really rare. And I hate that about me. I feel like I am lying to everyone around me, and I feel a lot of guilt and shame...9. How do your client's/patients feel about you doing YouTube videos? Are there ever any issues that come up about it?  My therapist has a YouTube channel and it's creating quite a few issues for me. I try to talk about it but it does not change my reaction to it. My therapist shares a lot of personal information about himself...Kati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - U OK? - Suggestions THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video th --- Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:

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