"I want connection & friendships but I push people away..." #57

Ask Kati Anything! audience questions from ep 57  1. Why is it that I can so desperately long for connection and friendships, yet I constantly mentally push people away and put up a mental wall? It's like I CANT connect, as much as...2.  Hey Kati! I feel like this isn't a topic talked about a lot in the world today. So, I am hoping this gets answered. What are your thoughts about children who have a traumatizing sexual encounter with another child? Such as inappropriate touching and fondling. Is this abuse?3. Hey Kati! Do you  'always' have to try to get better?  What if I don't want to get better? I know I am suffering but it's not consistent. On some days, I am all fine. I am not feeling my worst. My therapist says I'm...4. How do I stop being so lazy? I'm not necessarily happy with my life (because I'm too lazy to change it), but mood-wise I'm pretty happy most of the time. So it's not depression or anything like...5. Hi Kati, happy Thursday! Has a client ever shown you a song or a piece of music as a representation of how they are feeling or what they are going through or would you...6. Hi Kati, My therapist told me she has a “desire to protect my heart” and that she loves me. Is this countertransference? I’m in trauma therapy...7. Just curious, do patients ever bring in pictures of themselves as a child or of their family? Is that ever encouraged or discouraged and for what reason? Sometimes I've wanted to...8. Hi Kati, how can we open up more in therapy when the therapist isn't sharing much about herself? In other relationships, we often observe how the other(s) behave and respond accordingly (to prevent over / undersharing; to avoid rejection or conflict, etc). Yet in therapy...9. Hi Kati! I hold a lot of blame and anger towards my mother. She was emotionally absent throughout my life and made me feel like I was a burden when I was diagnosed with depression in high school. I feel like I was not helpfully...10. Hi Kati. How do you know that you have actually experienced childhood trauma? I dissociated in my last therapy session when talking about the relationship with my sister, who has always been quite the bully. My therapist mentioned that...---Video version or episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAILlinnea@toneymedia.comMAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.

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