"How do I learn to let myself be cared for?" AKA ep 89

Ask Kati Anything episode 89Audience questions:How do I get over the feeling of being hyper aware about myself in therapy? When I'm in session I always feel like I'm a little girl who's in trouble. Which makes me super aware of every single part of my body. The way I move or talk, even the way my ...I’m wondering how to deal with anger and hurt over being emotionally neglected as a child. I have been burying my trauma down for years so I wouldn’t have to deal with it, but have recently uncovered it all in therapy. Now that I’m aware of the abuse in my past, and understand why I act in certain ways (like my avoidant attachment style or clinging... Are there ever times when anxiety legitimately has no cause? I have recently started therapy and have been exploring the causes of my anxiety and in some cases I can identify what is causing it, but other times it feels like there is no cause. I will be fine one minute then all of the sudden feel anxious and nothing has changed and oftentimes the...How long can you keep bringing up the same issue till a therapist would decide to change things up or change the form of therapy altogether? Does it mean you 'failed' as a.. How do I learn to let myself be cared for? I can be very loving and caring to others but as soon as other people do anything for me I get super anxious and want to run away. I don’t feel worthy of care and worry that if I accept support I will relax too much and they will let me down. This results in me holding people at a distance, being super independent and never really feeling like I can lean on other people. I want to have more... This is a heavy one. I work front desk at a hotel and unfortunately, we had a guest commit suicide in house this week. I was the person to check them in, and I was the last person to see them alive. I was one of the people who assessed the condition of the room after the body had been removed. As you can imagine, this has been difficult to... Is there a point in time when it's been long enough of dealing with childhood trauma that you won't ever get over it? I feel like I've talked about it with a therapist and a Dr and even my husband but I don't feel any better. I'm still upset and angry about it all and it ...Is it normal to want a relationship but then also not want one at the same time, as I don't want to be responsible for anyone else. I am a carer and often feel selfish having time to myself and feel responsible for others a ...Kati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON   https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/support

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