#71 Why is Feeling Good So Uncomfortable?

Pre-order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED here:  https://geni.us/Bfak0jAudience questionsHi Kati, hope you're taking care of yourself. Can you talk about the boredom that comes with being okay? I've been experiencing extremes for so long, (manic/suicidal) that on the days/weeks where I'm more stable, I can't deal with the boredom of not having those extreme emotions, and often end up deliberately triggering myself to end the monotony...Hey Kati, do you have any tips on how to live for yourself and not for others? As a chronically suicidal person, the only reason I’m here is to keep other people happy. I don’t want help or to be alive, but I do. I constantly flip flop between this and was...Why is it there is such shame with sexual abuse/trauma? How can someone feel such shame and guilt about something that wasn’t their fault? (COMMENT: Hi Kati happy happy Thursday please answer How does a person know if they have any trauma because in my junior year of high a guy tried to take advantage of me  but also a lot...Do therapists sometimes provoke their clients into transference? My therapist says things like “if you were my daughter I would care how you felt and listen to what you have to say” and it makes me angry because she’s NOT my mom so it’s irrelevant. I’ve...I was wondering why it is so hard to accept trauma. Recently I realized I was sexually abused as a child and I keep trying to justify my fathers actions. I keep telling myself I’m just being dramatic or that my father “didn’t mean it that way.” Even when it was very...Hi Kati, I was wondering if you have any advice on how to discuss past sexual trauma in therapy. Do you really have to share and relive all the details in order to heal? I don't think I can say all those things out loud. I have come to realise that I was abused and repeatedly raped by an ex boyfriend....My therapist has started to bring up that I’m doing better and the idea of ramping down therapy the last couple of sessions but every time he does it kinda freaks me out. Is this attachment or could it be the fear of losing my safety net? (COMMENT: Add on: my therapist is close to retirement age and it...Video version of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY...  I do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive a commission on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREON  https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL linnea@toneymedia.comMAIL1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353  Austin, TX 78728PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/support

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