#68 "What Causes Us To Have Attachment Issues?"

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything!How does a therapist feel when a patient gets mad at them in session? Nothing threatening or personal, but things like copping an attitude, getting sarcastic...What are the things that can cause us to have attachment issues (other than abuse/neglect from our primary caregiver)? Can toxic friendships and having been bullied as a child and teenager cause us...Can you talk about avoidant attachment style (or avoidant personality? What’s the difference?) stemming from childhood trauma? I thought I was doing fine looking at others going through the periods of abusive...Can a singular "small" event, such as your dad kicking you as a kid, be considered a trauma? Or what if its combined with a bunch of small things happening occasionally over many years - like my dad slapping me, my parents yelling at me, telling me I'm stupid, worthless, etc...I feel like I struggle to feel any feelings towards any other person. It's like I don't care about anybody and there is no emotional reaction when I see someone. Like I'd meet up with a friend but it wouldn't matter if I saw them or I...I’ve just recently started talking about my self harm urges and self harm in therapy but I’m struggling to really get into it. How common is it to downplay how often the urges are, or how recently I’ve engaged in those types o...How do I know if I need a break from therapy or if I should change my therapist? I've been with my therapist for over a year and while in the beginning I could draw a lot from our discussions...Is it normal that after sessions with my therapist I spend a lot of time running through conversations in my head? It usually starts with things I may say or bring up, but I find myself answering for my therapist too...How do you deal with „second hand“ trauma (if that even is a thing)? about two months ago I witnessed cops having to tell my friend and her mom that their brother/son committed suicide... I’m wondering why I was never informed of my diagnoses even once after years of therapy! I wasn’t aware of my diagnoses until I downloaded an app where I can view my health records and I was shocked to find Gender Dysphoria on there...Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAILlinnea@toneymedia.comMAIL1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353  Austin, TX 78728PLEASE READIf youMy new book TRAUMATIZED is available for preorder! Order your copy today https://geni.us/Bfak0jSu --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/askkatianything/support

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